Finding your purpose, following your passion

In my weekly Sacred Feminine circle and private coaching sessions, a topic that has been coming up is: purpose, passion and dreams.

• There are the ones who are wondering about their life purpose, their contribution to humanity.
• There are the ones who are trying to figure out what truly inspire them, how to make meaning.
• There are the ones who have a dream but feel stuck and don\’t understand why they don\’t pursue it.
• There are the ones who have so many talents, gifts and passions that they feel lost, overwhelmed.

Over the last 8 years, working with hundreds of women as a teacher but also going through my journey as an entrepreneur, I have identified to big steps in living in purpose and following your passion.

1. Clarity: understanding your true essence, your passion, your calling
2. Alignment: elevating your vibration to your desires

CLARITY
What’s your unique voice? What\’s the essence of your purpose?

I found that starting with a Purpose Map is a great to have a complete overview of who you are and what you are about. It’s like when you go home after a long day and you check your fridge before cooking dinner: you check all the ingredients you have and then decide which recipe you will create or follow. Often, in the quest to find our voice and calling, people don\’t do a proper inventory, they only have half of the ingredients and along the way they get stuck. It\’s normal, it\’s part of the process. However, they end up thinking: I made a mistake, I am not cut for this, I am a failure… Instead of realising that it was a stepping stone, they feel stuck.

If we go back to our cooking metaphor, you started cooking thinking your are making pasta from scratch. You make them from scratch but when you are done, it feels incomplete. Then when you think about it, you realise, you love seafood and you are really good at cooking white sauce. In reality, your calling is to make seafood linguini. lol. Get the idea?
Too many people don’t do a proper inventory, either they are in a rush, or they are too fast to see dead-ends and failures… Whereas, they have all that they need to make a phenomenal recipe.

So what do your put in your Purpose Map (or should I say Purpose Recipe). Let’s put together some of the key ingredients in your soul journey:

Past wounds & personal history: Sometimes our biggest wound is our biggest gifts. Sometimes the hardships we went through taught us invaluable lessons or made us passionate about a cause. In my course, we always spent time integrating the past and turning our brokenness into gold. Peace and elevation.

Gifts and innate abilities/talents: every person of earth as natural gifts and abilities. Things they are insanely good at and don’t even realize. Everyone. Actually, it comes so naturally that we don’t realize it’s a talent. We overlook this gift. What are you insanely good at? Ask your friends. Observe yourself. Listen to comments people make.

Causes and topics that inspire you: when do you get fired up? What topic can you lose yourself in for hours? Art? Justice? Beauty? Spirituality? Children? Politic? Science?

People that inspire you and brands you love: Who do you admire, respect, celebrate, love? Why? It can be your colleague, a friend, a celebrity, a historical figure. It can be a brand like Apple or a small concept store. Make a list. Write what you like about them. See the trends.

People you envy: Same idea. Different angle. Envy and jealousy are nothing else but information about what we would like to have and we think we can’t have. SO of course it’s great information to identify our desires but it’s also an opportunity to analyze our relationship with trust and abundance.

What people always say about you: Start listening to what people always say about you.
You are so good at…
I love the fact that…
How do you do…. so easily?

I recently had a Skype call with a client and she was telling me that people around her always comment on her ability to dare: dare to paint a wall in red, dare to try this funky hairstyle, dare to wear those shoes, dare to be herself unapologetically. The second thing she mentioned was that she likes to make things beautiful: a room, an event, a woman, a project. Refinement, harmony, esthetic and expression. So, during the call, she realized that, although she is really good at organizing event, the reason why it didn’t feel right and she didn’t start an event planning company is because her true passion is to inspire people to dare to themselves unapologetically and express their unique inner and outer beauty everyday. So her essence is more about: Daring to be and express your magnificent self.

“Everybody is a Genius. But If You Judge a Fish by Its Ability to Climb a Tree, It Will Live Its Whole Life Believing that It is Stupid.” Einstein

Here\’s the tricky part though.
Once we put everything on the table, we might go with an existing recipe. But really, our true essence is an unique recipe. An original.

It\’s often difficult to figure out our unique essence because for each one of us it will be unique, an original, a savor that hasn\’t been explored before. And thinking outside of the box when we have lots of conditioning, rules and beliefs can be very challenging. It requires an open mind and a courageous heart, a sense of adventure. So, often, we follow an old recipe, we try to fit in a box. But eventually we  realize we are suffocating in this box. We realize we are much bigger than the box. We start feeling uninspired, lost, stuck, as we are trying to fit a square in a round hole.

So to get outside of the box, find inspiration from people who did. Be surrounded by soul sisters who will visualize you at your highest and best. In my Purpose, Passion & Manifestation mastermind course, we do an exercise that is powerful and we “see your true essence” in sisterhood. We see what each woman can’t see.

My journey as an entrepreneur has been challenging still is. I have a toolbox full of lifestyle makeovers and coaching programs and all the tools serve an ultimate purpose: restoring and elevating women. Style, movement, coaching, healing, speaking.., Some people say “too much”, I say “integration”, “wholeness”, “holistic”.

In the quest for making meaning, creating a vision and finding your passion, spend time with yourself, create your Purpose Map and allow it to live, to take shape till the point when your true essence will appear clearly to you. Or find a tribe of awakened soul sisters, they will see what you can’t see and help you make sense out of it.

Alignment

So if you are familiar with the law of attraction you know that energy that have similar vibration attract each other. In raising your energy to the vibration of your passion and calling, I see 2 main steps: releasing the old and restoring love.

Releasing the old baggage. Releasing beliefs, fears and patterns that not aligned with your purpose. If your purpose is to inspire other and be an agent of change but you have a belief that you aren’t enough then you will be second-guessing constantly your choices, intuition and offerings. If your purpose is to live of your art and sell your paintings but you believe it’s impossible to make a living out of art, then you will get stuck. A free lancer with a self-worth issue will have trouble setting the prices of his/her services and always be struggling financially.

So the first step in alignment is breaking out of the cage of the limitations and fears. The second step is FLYING.

Restoring LOVE in your life. Visualize yourself living your passion. What kind of shift can you make in your life right now to be the person who lives that calling, purpose. What can you do today to raise your vibration to more flow, pleasure, joy and love?

Also the higher your vibration, the closer it is to love, the more you will attract beautiful people and circumstances in your life.
So learn how cultivate LOVE everyday. Pleasure, creativity, inspiration, connection, understanding, gratitude, beauty. How do you bring those energies in your life everyday? In your space, wardrobe, food, actions, thoughts, words, relationships. Be LOVE. Spread LOVE.

When you feel good about your essence, your voice, your calling.
When you own who you are fully and can see the gift you are to the world. When your energy is full of light and love. Everything flows. You experience clarity, peace and meaning.

I wish you to live with purpose and passion. To savor our magnificent you are. To better the world with your luminescent light. To get started in finding inspiration, passion, purpose and meaning, check out my Mastermind Course: Purpose, Passion & Manifestation.

 

NAMASTE.