True Friendship

 

I recently came across a beautifully honest and insightful post, written by Oshun-Lilith that I wanted to share with you:

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\”I realized not everyone that claims to be your friend truly loves you and can fully show up for you as a friend.

People love you to the capacity that they are meeting themselves and sometimes relationships become incompatible as we need different things at different stages of our lives. I have gone through a lot of relationships and friendships on my spiritual path, some were based on mutual goals and projects, some were based on bad habits and escapism, some were there to help me learn new things and resolve karma. When these things were completed I was naturally guided to other places and new people showed up in my reality.

I realized this doesn\’t make me a bad person, a flaky friend, or them bad people, but it just shows that I am constantly changing at the moment and some people will be there in all of my shifts, some will not and others may be there again when our paths realign and we are working through similar things . I trust the process and surrender to it.

I used to try and force things in order to feel like I was a loyal good person but I realized this is really not being kind or loving to you or the other person.

It\’s actually dishonest…

We should never ever force things.

I just trust the flow of relationships and that when it\’s right for you in that moment it\’s always easy to align and it\’s energizing and healing to spend time together and connect. When it\’s not, it feels draining, difficult to align and you feel misunderstood and you can even feel alone even while you are in the company of others. Your feelings will always be your guide.

How do you feel when you connect with certain people, do they leave you feeling fuller or worse off than before? Do they fully get you and who you are becoming or is it just about surface level interactions and the idea of being friends as opposed to actually being friends?

I would actually rather be alone and source love from within than pretend to be nourished by connections where I\’m not being met fully.\”

– Nehanda